Look for and love the good in life
This does not mean you live a complete Pollyanna life. It means you acknowledge the challenges, move to change the circumstance and focus on the possible positive outcome of the change. If there is no possible positive outcome, then you move as quickly as possible to remove yourself from the situation (or people).
Also, you don’t just focus on the challenge and changing the circumstance. You choose to be consciously aware of all the other circumstances, people, events, etc… around you that are not creating challenges at the moment and you relish in those things. It is the love and appreciation of the joyous, pleasant, or just calm things in your life that will give you the strength to endure the moments when challenges arise.
For those of you who do not know immediately what a Pollyanna life means, let me tell you the story of Ms. Pollyanna herself (in my own words so if I get some details incorrect please forgive me).
Many years ago there was a perfectly lovely little family. Pollyanna raised by Missionaries was taught to love and look for the positive. In fact, Pollyanna’s philosophy of life was based upon a game she learned from her father when she was a very young child – The Glad Game. This game came about when Pollyanna was hoping for a doll to arrive for her for Christmas in the missionary barrel. Instead, when the barrel finally arrived, it contained only a pair of crutches! Her wise father made up the Glad Game on the spot, teaching her that they must choose to look upon the good side of life, and be glad about the crutches –because they didn’t need them!
Sadly her parents died in an accident and Pollyanna’s only living relative was her Aunt Polly. And Polly did not share in Pollyanna positive attitude, nor did many of the people of the new town she found herself in. Honoring her parents and being true to the positivity they instilled in her life, Pollyanna brought her amazing attitude and the Glad Game into the lives of everyone she touched in her new home town. This was a challenge in itself, for there some negative Gloomy Gus’s in that place! But it was Pollyanna’s never tiring spirit, her cheery smile, and her ability to bring sunshine and sympathy in the lives of others that transformed so many individuals, and eventually an entire town!
No matter the words of the nay sawyer or grumpy responses, she chooses to look past them. Her perspective on dealing with people was, “If you look for the bad in people you’re sure to find it, so look for the good in them instead.” So true! This type of attitude will go such a long way in motivating yourself and inspiring others to reach out to others in this world, and help them along. After all, we all have our tough times to go through, but if we just look for the good in others, and remember that “we’re all in this together”, we can get through it!
Focusing on the good was even taught to the local Reverend as he was preparing yet another the world has become evil, fire and brimstone, you will go to hell if you don’t…. sermons. As he was on a hillside practice his most menacing and convincing tone of damnation, she said to him, “There are eight hundred happy texts, did you know that?” He replied, “No, I didn’t know that.” Pollyanna, “Yes, well there are. And do you know, my father said that if GOD took the trouble to tell us eight hundred times to be glad and rejoice, He must have wanted us to do it.”
Sadly Pollyanna faced her own challenge when a fall from a tree nearly killed her. After so many negative slap backs, her own optimism was put into jeopardy. She had been brought to a point where it would have been easy for her to sink into the depths of her own despair and a sense of hopelessness about her own life. However, this time it was the townspeople, whose lives she had changed, who turned table and brought love, kindness, and hope to her. And yes, with this love, kindness and hope her spirits lifted and her body and soul healed.
Her story has always resonated within me, encouraging me when challenges arise. I challenge you when times are tough, and from time to time they will be, to accept the bad, the challenges, and face them, then do what is necessary to correct it. Then it will be easier to look upon life with a perspective of hope, and trust and belief that things will turn out the way they positively and blissfully should.