In our previous blog, we talked about how self-esteem is vital to our emotional and mental health. It is our armor against a constant barrage of negativity that we might be going through. We also covered some of the ways you can help to protect and build up your self-esteem. For today’s blog, we are going in a completely different direction.
Failure is something we all have to deal with at one time or another. It is rarely an easy thing to process, and can sometimes even lead us into a state of constant negativity if we focus on the failure. So what can really be done to help our emotional health? How can we take control when we fail?
Limit The Damage Caused
Sometimes when we fail, it might not be immediately noticed by us. However, once you recognize you have failed, the best course of action is taking steps to make sure that you limit the damage caused by that failure. Whether that is stepping down from a position you never should have taken, apologizing to someone who you might have hurt by saying something hurtful, selling that gym equipment you’re never going to use, or simply acknowledging that you made the mistake and are willing to fix the errors, doing these things can help to limit the damage. One very important thing to note: whatever the situation is, being proactive is always going to be a better option than simply focusing on the error and wishing it never happened.
Remember Other People Fail, Too
Most people don’t like to openly talk about their failures. Most people will talk about their contracts they just signed, or that new promotion at work, not that deal that they worked on tirelessly for months only to have it slip through the cracks or be rejected by others. But failure is completely normal, and lots of people fail over and over again. Remember, Thomas Edison failed over 10,000 times to create the electric light. Don’t be discouraged if you fail a few times. You will make it.
Remind Yourself Of Past Victories
Failing doesn’t mean you are worthless. It also doesn’t mean that you’ll never achieve the things you want. A couple of blogs back, we talked about keeping an achievement journal. This would be the perfect example of when you might want to read that. Maybe you got a promotion that you worked hard for. Or maybe you lost that weight you have been meaning to lose for a while. Or anything else you might be able to count as a victory. Write down everything you can, and review the ever-growing list constantly.
…And Past Failures
Your past successes are important. But your past failures are too. You have made mistakes in the past, and if you are reading this, you obviously survived them. Maybe you did bad in an exam or screwed up a project at work. It’s not a fun thing to think about the times when things went wrong, but by doing this, you can remind yourself that this failure is no different. You recovered from the failures of the past, and you can recover from this recent failure too.
Whatever went wrong, you’re probably facing some sort of decision – even once the initial consequences are over. No matter what, you will need to face the choices. Don’t rush into making a hasty decision – but look for a path forward. Take some time to think about your options and determine which one is the best for you in this current situation. Doing nothing is certainly an option, but it’s a decision in itself, and often one that won’t lead to anything positive.
No matter what failure you’re struggling with, you can learn from it and move on.